We make all kinds of decisions every single day, right?
Do you ever find yourself making decisions in a way that you know is not what you would normally do because you’d “feel bad” if you did what you really want?
Here are some examples of decisions that may make you “feel bad” even though you want or need to do them:
- Saying “no” to an invitation.
- Following your own intuition in designing your business, rather than someone else’s advice.
- Taking a trip for business even though it means your family will have to pick up the slack while you’re gone.
- Not hiring someone to do something when it doesn’t feel right (e.g. a friend, or someone who needs the money, or a bad doggie day care ), and saying no feels difficult.
- Asking someone for help.
- Insisting on good service, or the level of service you are paying for, even if you feel “high maintenance.”
- Charging for your services at the level that is consistent with your value, and Universal Law. (We talked about this on the recent teleclass).
Your intuition is constantly giving you messages about what you truly want, that which will always unfold in the greatest and highest good for you.
Are you listening to it, or is your fear of offending someone making you blind to its message?
Every minute spent making decisions from fear is a minute we give up access to our intuition – they exist after different energy states and you can’t be in both at the same time.
Even when decisions seem small, as if it couldn’t possibly be a big deal to do just this one thing that’s out of alignment with my truth, it is!
If you decide to avoid feeling bad, there are a couple of things to note:
- No one can make you feel bad, and you can’t make anyone else feel bad. One of my mentors would say, the offense is always within. Feeling bad is always a choice, one you make within you.
- If you feel bad, it’s based on an old agreement. Someone in your life taught you that you should feel bad for doing what you want, or even for being you. Who’s voice is that? If you’re saying to yourself, “I don’t want to be high-maintenance,” or “I should be grateful,” or “It’s selfish to want this,” or “I must be wrong, they must know better,” or “Maybe it’s me… I’ll try harder.” THOSE VOICES ARE NOT YOU. Someone in your life taught you those stories, and now is the time to break them!
In The 4 Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz says this:
“Don’t take anything personally Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.”
When you play small, refuse to charge what you’re worth, accept results that are less than what you want, or don’t ask for what you need, you’ve bought into someone else’s small story.
You’re not believing that they can handle the Truth. They can. And if they can’t, it’s not your responsibility! Go create a new agreement with those people today!