|Since Darla is off on an island somewhere, we are recycling this article, BUT it’s completely in alignment with what we are discussing and a good read! Enjoy!
Do you believe that unseen forces are ready and waiting to come to your aid? I do.But they don’t show up when you make decisions based on fear.Let’s think of an example. Someone refers a client your way. You meet them and while you know you can help them and you want to help them, they are not a good fit for you. They are not ready to move forward at the speed you’d like, they aren’t clear about what they want, or they aren’t ready to invest at the rate you want.
If you take the client anyway, that’s a fear-based decision. Would you agree?
You’re either afraid that you won’t have enough clients, or afraid you’ll offend them or the person referring them, so you suck it up and take the client.
What happens when you choose from fear like this?
First, it negatively impacts your energy – when the foundation of a decision is based in fear, crazy things will happen in alignment with fear as you execute that decision. You’ll be spending time trying to get that client to be some way other than they are, proving yourself, or justifying their investment.
Second, it takes up valuable space in your world that could have been saved for the right person. The Universe will always deliver you the right people when you remain clear and focused in an energy of love. It will be your job to recognize them, and you can only do that when love is your primary decision tool.
Making Love-Based Decisions
What does it mean to decide from a place of LOVE? It means that you are choosing something because you absolutely love it, it ignites your passion, it reflects your belief in abundance, and it leaves you inspired, excited, peaceful, and free. It is never coming from fear or lack. Your fundamental beliefs when making the decision might include:
You get the picture.
In the instance of the new potential client, above, the loving decision would be to educate the prospect about what they need and why you are not the best fit. This will empower them, and is very loving to you as well. If a client isn’t a good fit for you, you will not be a good fit for them, and even if you deliver great service, they will have missed an opportunity to learn and grow.
I have seen countless examples in which a loving decision to release a non-ideal client has landed multiple ideal contracts with minimal effort for my Aligned Entrepreneurs. “When riches come they often come so quickly it makes one wonder where they have been hiding all the lean years,” said Napoleon Hill. That is the impact of making decisions in love.
How to Make Solid Decisions Based In Love
Meet the Fear-Love Decision Tool
With every decision we are considering, there is always both LOVE and FEAR bundled into a YES decision, and LOVE and FEAR bundled into a NO decision. This is why decisions can be so hard for us! We are a bundle of collapsed thoughts and ideas, and without taking time to bring true awareness, or to think accurately, about our thoughts, we will remain confused and at best make an educated guess. Even the idea of making a gut decision can get completely confused, because we can’t really tell which thought our gut is reacting to!
So here’s what to do. Spell out the decision you want to make in a way that it has a “yes” or “no” answer. E.g. “Is taking on this client a good decision?”
Fill in each of the quadrants in the decision chart by really getting honest about your thoughts. I like to go clockwise from the top left.
What are your fears about saying NO?
What do you love about saying NO?
What do you love about saying YES?
What are your fears about saying YES?
Now, each quadrant has some possible thoughts, and all are valid. Your job then is to review your chart and ask yourself, which quadrant holds the most heat for you? Which one is the one that is keeping you fuzzy? Where is the insight? If you do this honestly, with practice you will always see what is really going on.
Not one loving reason to keep it.
My client recently told me, “I used the decision tool and I realized that there is not one loving reason to keep it,” referring to something she used to offer in her business that she was considering discontinuing.
When you get that kind of clarity, there is nothing more to do than to make the decision and trust that what is coming next is perfect!
Here’s to love!