I was speaking with someone recently who has tons of marketable skills, significant past success, and a desire to change her life.
She had become aware that she was not taking action consistent with changing her life. She was waiting for things to be perfect before taking action. She was committed to making sure she didn’t look bad more than she was committed to actually taking the steps she knew she needed to take. (She’s not alone, right? Sound familiar?)
We created a follow-up plan for her, she committed to taking some specific action she’d been waiting on, and we would talk again on a specific date. I let her know that at that time we would talk about whether she might be a good fit for coaching. She’s got an inspiring difference she’s here to make, and I was clear my level of awareness would facilitate that difference being real in the world.
Limiting Thoughts
She immediately said, “I won’t be able to do that.” I asked a little bit more about why and she said, “I just know I won’t have the money.”
Now, first, many of you would have said “OK” here and stopped the conversation. I was grateful for it because for me this is where the conversation really begins. And I had to ask her.
“So we just made a plan for a set of actions you are going to take toward the opportunity in your business between now and when we talk next. Have you already decided that they aren’t going to work?”
Her line of thinking indicated that she had decided nothing was going to change. Her belief in what was possible was so limited she immediately cut it off before her new intention even had time to permeate into the universe.
Lack thinking is insidious.
We do this all the time. We see something we want. We think we decide to make it happen, but in truth we instead “hope” for it or “try” to make it happen. Yet, when the rubber meets the road and it’s time to actually make decisions to make it happen, we immediately limit ourselves.
If you are making decisions from a place of assuming:
- The money won’t be there
- I won’t be supported
- I don’t have the right connections
- I can’t make it happen
You will always be right about those assumptions, because your actions will support the lack. And sometimes people would rather be right about their state of lack than risk thinking in prosperity!
So what do we do about it?
We first must catch ourselves in the limiting thoughts that are inconsistent with prosperity. Only then will we recognize the insidious nature of our old default tendencies toward lack, and only then will we make it a priority to embrace something new.
Here are a few quotes from You, Too, Can Be Prosperous by Robert A. Russell that really speak to the Truth about what is possible.
“The dictionary defines prosperity as the “state of being prosperous; advance or gain in anything good or desirable; successful progress: attainment of a the object desired.” To prosper in this sense is to have everything where and when it is needed. It would enable one to face the future with the certain knowledge that whatever he needed would always be present when the need appeared.“
“There are many reasons why we fail to attract what we want from life; the chief causes of failure are our limited capacities and our feeble expectations. We ask for inferior things when we might just as well have the best.”
“‘What things soever ye desire, when ye pray [think], BELIEVE that ye receive them and ye shall have them.’ We know this intellectually, but when we are in need of money or other material necessities, we tend to look for them in the world of things.”
In short, we say we want something, but at the end of the day we have no faith, and we act accordingly. And we aren’t even aware we have no faith. It takes great courage to follow the faith in our own personal Truth, and allow ourselves to have an experience of creating a greater result… of attaining the object desired.
When We Move Through Limits
A client of mine repeatedly steps into faith (even though she is still reticent to admit she has faith…). She makes decisions based on her desire, on that little “big vision” she has for herself, trusting her Truth. Each time what she needs shows up.
This week she told me about a client she had taken on automatically because it was a “good gig” according to her old standards. But when she thought about it, she realized that gig was not a fit with where she was going. She took the risk and turned the client down. She was nervous about turning down the money – she had even negotiated a bigger rate for herself. She was nervous and embarrassed about changing her mind and burning the bridge. But she followed her Truth.
That week she brought in 3 new clients, ones that were consistent with her vision for herself.
Whatever she needed was present when the need appeared.
What decisions are you making from limiting assumptions about how it is going to go – this week, this month, this year? STOP! Align with your Truth and Profit today!