So, in doing some research this morning about my so-called “target client” and whether they really exist (with the exception of myself), I googled “stop being perfect and start being you.”  I mean, of course I did, right?  As I have tried to figure out how to get my services in front of the people who are dying for them (I remember how painful it was when I knew I needed something different but I didn’t know what), I have found myself thinking – who really just googles whatever they are thinking about?  Well, me, apparently.

So anyway, as I perused page 1 of my results I saw that Seth Godin’s book “The Big Moo” is subtitled “Stop trying to be perfect and start being remarkable.”  Funny, that book has been on my “to read” list for awhile… perhaps it’s time to pick it up?  My “to read” is quite long – current read is “The Art of Possibility,” which is great so far.

Anyway, the other interesting result was a link to a Fight Club quote site.  Check it out:

I say never be complete.  I say stop being perfect.

Yes. F%&@ perfectionism, it’s killing people. When you want to be perfect – you start caring about what everyone thinks of you. The more you don’t give a damn what other people think of you – the more free you will be to do anything you want in life.  The reason you buy s#&@ you don’t need is because you want to “complete” yourself, you don’t feel whole, as if some part of you is missing. That’s exactly what advertising is doing. They make you feel incomplete.

Why do we have this urge? I understand in some way, buy why not just relax and enjoy every moment of life as it is. Accept what is, and you will be free, you will feel no pain – no more pain. All you have to do is accept what is. Tell yourself every single day “it is what it is” this sentence will free you. You have to start living in the now. Forget about the past, don’t dwell on it. Would, could, should – forget it. Everything that happened happened, you can’t go back – so stop dwelling on your mistakes of the past – and focus on the here and now. Don’t think about the future, it does not exist. You might die today. Tomorrow might never come.

The only thing you have in life is NOW. This moment.  The past does not exist, the future is just a projection in your mind – why would you live in another dimension. Just for one moment, turn off your mind and stop thinking – just don’t think of anything, enjoy the silence in your head and be in the moment. That is the key to happiness.

Accept who you are, and you will be free.

Now, I remember when the movie came out, I think I had quite a bit of anger about how society was designed to make us feel incomplete.  I’m not angry anymore, because I realize that we each have the power to do something about that in our own lives.  The anger isn’t necessarily helpful (though its not bad if it fuels you), but the message of the above quote is dead on.  Accept who you are and you will be free.  Stop being perfect.  Stop trying to get somewhere.  Life is in the journey, not the destination, etc., etc.  What is one thing you can STOP doing today that you do because you think you should?  Where can you, right now today, pause and say “it’s good enough” and move on?

Regarding my “target client,” my website, and my free call I am leading tonight which I want to be PERFECT (ha!), this is exactly what I am going to do!

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