In last week’s article, “Is the Universe Tricking You?” we talked about the Cycle of Proving and how it shows up to have you question and doubt your decisions. The Universe is never tricking you, it’s simply revealing to you some aspect of your subconscious mind that wants you to stay safe, and small. Safe and small in a way that honors the patterns it smartly created when you were just a kid and needed them. It’s time to let them go.
As a reminder, the “V” in our PROVING acronym stands for “Validate Fear.” When you Peek your big vision, Remove the resistance, and Open your mouth to take action, something will happen to validate your own subconscious fear of actually having the vision be real. It is GUARANTEED.
Where you go from there simply has to do with how practiced you are at moving through the fear. As you make firm decisions without looking back, and put them into irreversible action, the fear will no longer grab you. When you let the fear win, your box becomes smaller.
So here are your two options.
When the old Cycle of Proving wins, it looks like this.
I – Ignore Inner Knowing. You let the thing that happens make you question and doubt your own inner knowing about your vision. For me, early on this could happen when someone simply gave me a sideways glance as I shared my vision. I was so programmed to look for external approval, I’d give up my dream at the drop of a hat.
N – Next Best Thing. Next we settle. We say, well, I wanted an experiential event with 8 people who pay me well, but maybe I’ll just do a workshop for $97 and see how that goes. And that becomes the new norm we talk ourselves into.
G – Give Up. The next best thing is never going to be as fulfilling as honoring your calling, so you’ll eventually give up. Because what fun is it to live an almost life?
Please, Break the Cycle!
Here is your new option:
I – Interrupt the Pattern. When you recognize that your external circumstance is simply a reflection of your internal thought processes that are ready to be healed, you can actively interrupt the pattern. This may look like ignoring what everybody else says, not asking for advice, investing in yourself when you normally wouldn’t, getting on stage even when it scares you.
N – New Experience. The pattern gets broken when you give yourself a new experience. The new experience is the only way your subconscious will learn that new patterns are actually safe. You cannot think your way into the new thing feeling safe. It will feel scary and all levels of analysis will not change that. But the new experience will blow up your assumptions in an instant. For me the biggest new experiences in my journey have been the times when I’ve made decisions without a full on analysis and pro/con list, but rather just trusted my own inner knowing and gone for it.
Will-feel-like-death. That’s when you’re fully alive.
G – Greater Vision. The result of breaking the pattern? You’ll actually see a BIGGER vision for yourself. Once you know yourself as someone who can do things differently, and become the person who is willing to honor it, you will get greater messages about what’s possible for you. You are only seeing the tip of the iceberg right now, I am certain. When you become the person who can handle seeing more, you’ll see more faster than you can imagine.
What now? Go out and break the cycle!
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