Everything vibrates.

Including us.

We are microscopic particles vibrating at a certain rate. So are the people with whom we’re in relationship.

The frequency at which we vibrate literally changes based on our thoughts, beliefs, and motivations in life.

This is sometimes called our “consciousness” or level of awareness.

You’re the type of person who is committed to growth. If you weren’t you wouldn’t be reading this.

So, if you are willing to do the work of it, your level of consciousness, and your vibration, are increasing.

As we expand our consciousness we go in and out of resonance (matching vibration) with the world around us – including people.

The Complain Zone

There was a time in my life in which I would regularly find myself surrounded by people who were complaining about the conditions of the world, or their world. And I was in harmony with them.

I rarely experience this anymore.

But at the time I entered my last relationship, I’d just changed jobs and learned immediately that my company had been bought.

I was resonating between victim and anger, and while I didn’t stay in that place long, I felt resigned about work, and also about love.

Here are the 7 Levels of Energy/ Consciousness (and Profit):

Level 1 = Victim/ I Lose
Level 2 = Conflict/ You Lose
Level 3 = Forgiveness/ I Win
Level 4 = Concern/ You Win
Level 5 = Reconciliation/ Win-Win
Level 6 = Synthesis/ We All Always Win
Level 7 = Non-Judgment/ Winning and Losing are Illusions

I connected with a relationship when I was bouncing between victim and conflict. Shortly after that I began building my business, and I began to grow.

I went out of resonance with my relationship. We had less and less to talk about. My dreams were met with blank stares. Or worse – critical skepticism. I began to keep them to myself.

I kept my SELF to myself, in the prime relationship in my life.

We shared space, holidays, families, but we didn’t share dreams.

I stand for people’s dreams, and he didn’t believe in dreaming.

And nothing was bad, you have to understand. It just wasn’t right.

Luckily I didn’t try to change him, as I knew that didn’t work. But I did think that if I believed enough for both of us – if I raised my consciousness high enough – he’d eventually come with me.

And that, my friend, is Level 1 (victim) thinking – waiting, wishing, and hoping for the circumstances to change.

You’re not evolved if you’re shrinking. You’re just not.

“Never suppress yourself in an effort to influence, hold, or win someone.
When we are unreal, so are our rewards.”
~Vernon Howard

Now, I see relationships grow and flourish all the time because one person changes. But the other person has to be willing to go along for the ride.


So what do you do?

  1. Ask yourself – are there decisions I do not make because I’m in this partnership?
  2. Ask yourself – do I shrink or hold back to make my partner feel more comfortable?
  3. Ask yourself – what was my level of consciousness when I attracted this person? What is it now? If you assume he/she has not and will not change, are you still a match?
  4. Take 100% responsibility for where you ARE – you created it, it is not his or her fault.
  5. Take 100% responsibility for where YOU want to go.
  6. Act boldly and swiftly based on your insight.

Staying with someone who is not at your level (note, this is not a judgment, just science) is not only affecting your home life, it is affecting your profit. Every moment spent at a lower energy state is a moment you can’t spend at a higher one. It is a loss of life. And it translates to a loss of clients.

I don’t want that for you!

While I do not profess to have it figured out – it was hard for me to let go of my relationship – I do know this.

Where the desire is present, the way to fulfill it is also present. It’s the law.

If you desire a loving, supportive relationship, the way is present. But you’ve got to be willing to release old patterns (like not choosing what YOU really want) in order for the path to enter your awareness.

It all starts with a decision.

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